“Being in love is a complete submittal to fully understanding, experiencing, and becoming that higher sense of self and purpose.”
Recently I have been through a few tough moments and thought it would be a good idea to take some time for a self-reflection excursion. To this point, my life has been incredible in every way I could have imagined – or so I thought.
During this time I realized something every aspiring or current entrepreneur should know. It wasn’t an ‘ah-ha’ moment or even a spark of genius that popped into my head, but a viewpoint honed through a culmination of years and years of lessons learned. When I realized this new notion, I was lifted into a whole new level of understanding of the world and why we each do what we do, as well as how important it is to be fully ‘in tune’ with the understanding of self – also known as an ‘actualized self.’
UNCOVERING NEW SELF
Until recently, this new notion simply hadn’t revealed itself because (like most ‘too busy’ business owners) I rarely take time to reflect upon life and the correlations and truths unearthed as a byproduct of my experiences.
As I sat back overlooking the serene countryside from a hammock, alongside peaceful chirping of birds and waves from a lake crashing at my feet, I realized what years of building great companies and relationships had taught me in just five simple words: true love fosters authentic creation.
Whether it is an existing or new idea or relationship, at the root of our genetic makeup lies an abundant force driving each of us to create meaningful purpose in this world and discover our true selves.
One can argue what ‘great’ means, but to me it is having learned something of practical value – lesson(s) to leverage going forward in the journey called life. Length of time in a relationship or how much money a company makes I believe (in the context of authentic creation) are linear barometers in understanding what ‘great’ means because life experiences dictate interpretation. Life is complex, sometimes tethered and sometimes disaggregated, and no two lives can, will, or should ever be the same. Thus, what is important to me might not be important to you, or vice versa.
THE BEST OF YOUR OWN SELF
A second enlightening tidbit also came – true love is meant to help uncover the best of your own self.
There are three things which individuals overlook in their quest toward true love:
- Knowing exactly what to look for: be able to articulate what you need, from whom, and why.
- Understanding life is not about doing everything yourself (not even close): a singular mindset on the world will only take you so far.
- Believing in what you deserve: stop making excuses, living a sedentary lifestyle, or settling for someone or something because it’s ‘easier that way’ or ‘too hard’ otherwise.
Everyone should realize:
- the world is at our fingertips (literally) and we all deserve better than #3
- constantly being open to revising #1 is imperative
- having the gusto to relinquish full control is the only way #2 can be resolved.
The point: anything worth living for is not easy; the hardship is what makes the journey toward that person or idea even more special. Stretch boundaries. Buck the trend. Laugh in the face of sadness. Love like there is no tomorrow. Be free and enjoy all the life can offer. Follow your heart…. all in an effort to realize your full potential.
Being in love, whether it’s an idea/vision that you’re insanely passionate about or a person who fulfills your every hope and desire, means you’ll experience the gift of a secure and complimentary framework throughout your life. This will compel you to let your guard down and take chances, which is what life is all about, including how to: fully appreciate, embrace, experience, and give without regret.
AUTHENTIC CREATION: A PHYSICAL MANIFESTATION OF LOVE
Finally, the culmination of what I realized while sitting on the hammock was this: true unwavering love creates an authentic and tangible manifestation of itself.
What does that mean?
When it comes to a loving relationship, this means creating a family through the birth of a child. There is nothing more beautiful than being immersed in the intangible (love) in an effort to create the tangible (another person).
On the flip side, throughout this post the word ‘idea’ was chosen instead of ‘company’ when talking about love. Why? Because an idea that truly resonates at the core of our being has the opportunity to become a scalable, meaningful company that individuals around the globe can become a part of in a meaningful way. There are countless examples of this; Zappos is one of the more recent.
One central point to this manifesto: entrepreneurs we are truly blessed more than any other profession in the world.
Because entrepreneurs have the ability, through their own authentic love, to do something even more powerful than create a life or build a company – we have the opportunity to empower others to authentically create.
In my opinion, there is no greater way to express true love than by creating someone or something that empowers others around the world to love authentically in a way that is meaningful to them.